Equal or Not Equal? Men and Women

Let's see...topic for today...how about hypocrisy? How about hypocrisy in relationships? Are men and really so different that we should be able to get away with different things in relationships? Are we equal? Where should the line be drawn? This is a debate I have with myself frequently. Oddly enough...I can argue both side on this one. Sometimes I feel we are different and therefore situations are going to be handled as such, then other times I feel we're not so different that we shouldn't just get away with certain things due to gender....it's so confusing for me. Maybe you can help me out with this one.

Ok, let's try an extreme example in a relationship and then work our way simple. That's the way I like to operate debates. Let's say a man gets oral sex from a female that's not his girlfriend. It wasn't emotional..he just 'got some head' that's it. Never even spoke to the chic again. Most men, and a lot of women would say he should be forgiven for this infidelity because it was just head. Men like to argue that head just ain't that serious, some even argue that head isn't cheating. Ok...let's say i wanted to agree (which I don't, lol), is it cool for the chic to go out and get some anonymous oral sex too? No emotions...just some guy she let 'lick the cat' (lol) and that was it. Is that cool? Most guys would flip the fuck out at this question and say 'HELL NO'. Which always cracks me up. They don't like that shit one bit. But it's super cool to get 'sum head'. I've had a guy tell me that because men are men..it's ok for them..but that women aren't suppose to conduct themselves this way. My arguement was, what makes you think men are supposed to conduct themselves like that? He tried to pull the cave man-esk arguement of men, as in when we all first came to be and were basically animals in a sense, were not meant to be with one woman and they are to sow their oats, so to speak. My arguement is...well we were using cell phones then either, should I stop paying my bill and tell AT&T I don't pay because it wasn't in my nature? Which is my way of trying to explain that you can't use old ass logic to explain a present day situation to me. Blacks and Whites used to not be allowed to marry...should all interacial couples never marry now? I mean come on..that list of examples could go on forever.

So I mean my point is....are we that different on who can and can't get free will oral sex? lol. My opinion would be...on that subject, we're the same. Wrong is wrong....if you want some head...get it from your significant other..or not at all. If you must get it from someone else...at least let the person your with know this...or break up with them. It's a nasty practice and just immoral. Have some respect and dignity for yourself and the ones you claim to care for.

Next example, less extreme....men would like to say that it's perferctly okay for them to have a plethera of female friends...but women shouldn't (while in relationships). I had the same guy argue me that it's okay for men to have female friends because they won't get taken advantage of, because it's not like some female is going to over power them and rape them. He felt like a female in a relationship shouldn't have male friends because if something bad happened to the girlfriend by one of her 'guy friends' it would be so awful. My arguement was....you don't have to have guy friends to get raped, for one. That's just a general concern for any woman. Then I tried to explain the concept of trust in a relationship and the possibility of spending more time with other women then your girlfriend...which can happen with too many female friends. And that's something..that if a girlfriend where to blow her boyfriend off for guy friends, it'd be ''curtains''. lol. Ya know what I'm saying? Him and I went back and forth on that for a while and never really agreed. My over all opinion is that it's cool for both sexes to have a few friends of the opposite sex....no problem. Now if you're married...that gets a lil more complex...but I'ma keep it simple...we're not going there. lol. My only thing is, if you have a friend of the opposite sex that you don't want to introduce to you significant other or bring them around...they probably shouldn't exist in the first place. That's all I'm saying. And if, at any time, you start to feel that friend might be trying to cross that friend line....red flag!!! You just gotta be respectful to the person you claim to love and want to be with. Friends are friends..no biggie...but remember, we don't flirt with friends. You shouldn't be sleeping in the same bed with opposite sex friends unless one of you is dying...lol. Like use common sense. And guys who expect to be the only male friend in their girlfriends life, don't be surprised when your girl wants all your time and wants to talk constantly about shit you don't care about. You wanted to be her ONLY male friend....so step up and eat it. You asked for it.

But y'all let me know what you think of this....I got more debatable subjects coming I promise..lol.